ok so i’ve been thinking a lot about this and i’m gonna just. do a MASSIVE blog refresh. delete (most of) my drafts, my asks, try to make everything That Bit Less Stressful. i went on an unfollowing spree recently but it was purely to unfollow inactive blogs so i might go through that again. honestly, if i didn’t have so much stuff on here, i’d archive the blog or just delete it all over to start again. but ! i don’t wanna lose everything i have. so i will be purging. i’m sorry for everyone whose stuff i’m deleting — i’m sure i’d love to still interact with you!
I’m all about unforgiving and hating and holding grudges because it keeps me safe and mentally healthy and I don’t care about your stupid feel-good quotes about forgiving everyone everywhere always so you can take your feel-good emotionally manipulative apologist bullshit and shove it
i don’t mean to Start Anything here but — as someone who does promote the concept of forgiving people and moving on, i think you have it completely wrong? the chances of op seeing these are next to nothing since this post already has 165k notes but i just wanna point out:
when i advise someone to forgive someone who has hurt them, it is not to prevent them from being “safe and mentally healthy”. it is to make them safe and mentally healthy. i don’t suggest to people “hey, you’ve been abused, let it go and go back to your abusers and forgive them so they can hurt you some more.” often, if you’re holding a grudge against someone, if you can’t let it go — then it isn’t the person that hurt you that is affected by the grudge, it’s just you.
forgiving a person that hurt you doesn’t mean you think it was okay for them to do that, nor does it mean that you should go back and let them do it again.
forgiveness is incredibly important for someone who has undergone trauma to try and move on with their life. deciding to think “you wronged me, but i’m not going to let you control my life anymore; i’m going to choose to forgive you, which shows i have the upper hand and i am able to define myself without this hatred for you” is SO important. you can’t move on as a person until you’ve expelled the abuser or abusive situation from your thoughts. you can’t expel them before you forgive them.
it’s not “feel-good emotionally manipulative apologist bullshit”, it’s something recommended for you to do to ensure that you are as mentally sound as you can be.
also important to remember: forgiveness is key, but only when the situation is over. once you have removed yourself from it, once you are safe, once you are able to ‘look back’ on events and interact with people from a safe distance. that’s when this comes into play, and not before, because that’s when it can become emotionally manipulative.
another thing: forgiveness is not something to offer someone who hurt you when they ask for it. it’s something to offer someone as your decision. that’s the difference between emotional manipulation and genuine forgiveness.
If you’ve reblogged (or posted) something, only to see that the entire body of text has disappeared from it, just click edit and switch the post to HTML in the text editor (found in the gear on the top right corner of a post while in edit mode). Then hit save again. I don’t know why this works, I don’t know if there are conditions in which it won’t work, and I don’t know if someone else has found a more logical fix that I missed, but this has been working for me so far, so I thought I’d share it with you too.
in other news, i’m probably gonna become pretty selective soon, like only roleplaying with mutuals. this would only be for threads so i’d still answer memes and stuff !! but yeah i wanna have this blog as a place to chill and not feel like, pressured. <3
Anonymous: I'm confused. I thought Dean was Aquarius?
WELL.
canon dean is aquarius, but i’m like 800% certain that the show creators did Not choose his date of birth with star signs in mind. so i changed it. i can’t remember what i decided his Actual Birthday was (i have it written down somewhere) but it’s somewhere in the scorpio section of the year (because dean is honestly such a scorpio like??? it fits so well)
but yes you are right dean is an aquarius in supernatural. even if he acts nothing like it. <3
IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT EVERYONE!!! [BANGS SPOON AGAINST POT] LISTEN UP GUYS I HAVE AN IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT!!!! dean winchester is a good man and should be treated as such thank you for your time
A couple of months ago, we changed “ignore” to “block” and added some new features that increase privacy. Now we’re introducing a “Show this blog on the web” toggle that gives you even more control over who sees your stuff. If you’re stressed about lurkers, this is the toggle for you.
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There’s no sacrifice of social features! Your followers can read, like, reply to, and reblog your posts
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To hide any non-group blog from the web, click “Settings” under the account menu at the top of the dashboard, then click the name of the blog you’d like to update on the right side of the page. Scroll down to the directory portion of your blog settings and toggle the “Show this blog on the web” option off.
Voila! Well, actually, pas ici! Your blog disappears from the web in a plume of smoke.
as most of you are aware, the academic year has now begun. and this is the most intense school i’ve ever experienced since i just joined COLLEGE, which is less dramatic than american college but still pretty huge for me.
here’s the deal — if i’m going to college every day, getting a poop-ton of homework, having to do loads of extra research AND running a demanding blog at the same time, things are going to get stressful. which is why, with deepest regrets, this blog is going to become pretty darn selective.
normally, i accept most if not every request to roleplay. i like doing that. i like being known as someone inclusive who won’t turn you down. unfortunately, that’s just a bit impossible at the moment. this could last for a fortnight or it could be the case until christmas, i just don’t know.
this does not mean you can’t ask to roleplay with me! it just means that, if i turn you down, it is not because i am uninterested. it’s just because i’m judging that i already have enough to do on this account without added threads. <3
In response to Tumblr’s formatting updates, we have made some modifications to EditableReblogs to allow continued editing of content above your additions to a post.
PLEASE NOTE!!! This extension does NOT modify how posts appear on the dash. They will still appear in the new layout; this change only affects what you can do with previous posts in the editor. We will probably be adding a separate feature to change how posts display on the dash, if desired, but that is beyond the scope of this update.
As always, we will be standing vigilant for any further developments on how this update works in the coming days. Feel free to bring questions or comments to our support chat, support blog askbox, or GitHub issues list.
